A few weeks back, this girl told me that I seemed like a flirtatious person. My friend decided to butt into the conversation, exclaiming, “Ha, are you kidding me?! Jacky wouldn’t know what flirting was if it slapped him across the face!”
That’s only half-true.
It’s not that I don’t understand the concept of flirting. For most college guys, it’s about picking up some girl at a random party. Who knows; maybe one hook-up will turn into a fling. Maybe, the fling will turn into a relationship of charming attractions and, just maybe, the relationship will turn into an engagement ring.
But, for now, it’s about picking up the girl.
When you flirt, you have two intentions in mind: Catch the person’s interest, and have it be one of positive curiosity. It can be done with a few small jokes, a couple intriguing questions, and occasionally, the playful stroke on her (or his) arm. At the end, there might even be a wink. Simply put, you’re attempting to make the other person like you, whether it’s for a one-night stand or a long-term courtship. You…uh…you…
Shit, maybe I don’t understand what flirting is.
Nonetheless, I just don’t like it. It’s too much of being pretentious. Flirting usually leads to too many jokes that aren’t funny and too many questions that just don’t garner any constructive answers. Do I really care if a complete, albeit attractive, stranger is enjoying the keg party? Would it really matter if she laughs when I ask her, “Hey, are you free for the rest of your life?” (Warning: using cheesy pick-up lines may cause harm to your reputation.) Probably not.
Plus, I suck at winking.
Hell, this is certainly a skewed idea of what flirting entails. So, enlighten me. What’s your take on wooing someone?
P.S: Special thanks to my friend, Humza, and his many drunken statements, along with Mariana, who refuses to believe that she is my favorite person in the world.
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Ahh winking... the gesture that sends a worried shiver to my soul, it is a rare person who can pull off a wink without looking creepy! The last wink I received was so bad that he may as well have told me he was planning to sexually assault me a ferret.
ReplyDeleteI think flirting can be simple with a cheeky smile and flicker of the eyes!
I would agree with Kai, most people can't pull off a wink and that line to being creepy and too forward is a hard one to walk. Stay away from that one.
ReplyDeleteI would definitely put humor close to the top. Even if the jokes are aren't that funny, sometimes it is the thought that counts.
I'm crude and vulgar but I can be quite open and honest as well, plus I don't really hold back when it comes to discussions. It puts a lot of people off but those who aren't come to appreciate it. And sometimes when I'm being friendly and joke around, it gets misinterpreted as being flirty. I'm aware of how people may see the way I interact with others as being flirtatious but I'm really not doing anything other than being myself and there's really no way I can stop doing that, is there? hah.
ReplyDeleteMH i know what you're talking about! sometimes i'll say something nice and others think i'm just fishing for something. i guess you just can't think about it too much haha
ReplyDeleteI love how Humza and Mariana are given special thanks at the end...lol. I assume they know much about flirting? I'll give Mariana the benefit of the doubt, but Humza, not enetirely too sure. Jacky I think you should discard all information and we will start a dating service out of 2 Downing (Chanch can be the secretary and Dan will be employed as the doorman) :p See you soon!
ReplyDeleteYou have to watch Scam School, it's an on-line show. It will teach you cool tricks to impress the ladies...or make you look like an idiot...but worth a try.
ReplyDeleteYou try it first, then tell me how it went :)